6 Things to Understand About Patiently “Bearing With Others”

6 Things to Understand About Patiently Bearing With One Another

By now, I am sure that you have read from the other blogs about how hard it is to patiently bear with others, including God. However, the concept that I’d like to convey is that patiently bearing with one another has a foundation in Christ and not self-will. It is important to understand that there are times when self-will comes into play, yet, self-will is not the secure foundation to bearing with one another.

First, it’s important to understand that I am obligated to bear with others.


When I hear the word, obligated, I immediately look for a way out. My flesh hates that word. Yet, this is exactly what we are when it comes to having patience with others. Don’t want to hear it from me? Well…how about Paul?

“We who are strong have an obligation to bear with the failings of the weak…” Romans 15:1a (ESV) emphasis my own.

Paul says that we have an obligation to bear with the failings of the weak. Now, just to put the icing on top Paul wants us to make sure of something else…

Second, it’s important to know that bearing with others is not about me.


“…and not to please ourselves.” Romans 15:1b (ESV).

Honestly, the obligation was probably hard enough but now the obligation is not even about me. Isn’t that how it goes though? In each situation, when I need to bear with someone else there is a tendency for me to start being selfish. I don’t want to deal with them, I just want what I want.

Third, it’s important to know that bearing with others is for them.


Paul goes on to say,

“Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up.” Romans 15:2 (ESV).

Again, my heart starts fighting me at this point. I don’t really want to hear all of these things yet the inner conflict is that I know that I should be doing these things. This is also where I think we can fall short of the reasons why we are to bear with one another.

Fourth, it’s important to know that bearing with others has its foundations in Christ.


“For Christ did not please himself, but as it is written, ‘The reproaches of those who reproached you fell on me.’” Romans 15:3 (ESV).

It’s not because it’s the obligation. It’s not because it’s about being a better human being. It’s not because of morality. It’s not because we need to modify our behavior. It’s because of Christ.

Christ was and is our ultimate example of bearing with others. Christ bore humanity’s reproaches (aka faults) and did not seek to please himself instead. Yet, I like to make it personal and say that Christ bore my faults instead of pleasing himself. Christ is the foundation as to why I bear with the failings of others.

Fifth, it’s important to know that bearing with others is beneficial.


“For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.” Romans 15: 4 (ESV)

What was written about Christ was for our instruction which gives us endurance and encouragement that we might have hope.

Sixthly, and finally, it is important to know that God is able to give me what I need.


“May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God.”  Romans 15:5-7 (ESV).

What was written about Christ for our instruction gives us endurance and encouragement but this comes from God who is the God of endurance and encouragement. He can grant harmony so that we can glorify him and his son.

I hope walking through these Scriptures has helped you as much as it has helped me. It is good for me to remember that, first, I am obligated to bear with others, second, I need to remember that it’s not about me but third, it’s for those I am bearing with, fourth, because of Christ, fifth, knowing it is beneficial, and sixth, that God is able to give what I need.

May God be glorified in what we patiently do according to His rich mercy and love.

Ryan Thomason

Ryan Thomason works with Transform Student Ministries as the Marketing & Network Coordinator. He is married to a wonderful woman named Madison. He has voluntarily served Precept Ministries for close to 10 years before coming on staff full time. He has interned with their media department in 2008 and with the student ministry in 2009. He has lived in Guatemala to learn Spanish.

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