Great Friends

Great Friends

Friends are the people we truly know. We laugh with them, cry with them and we trust them. They know our hurts and see the parts of us that are far from pretty and they stick with us. That’s the kind of friend I’m talking about here.

I have a few friends like this and I wouldn’t trade them for anything. The best part is that this kind of friend not only loves me for who I am but also loves Jesus. Since we both love Jesus we want each other to live as one who is known and loved by Jesus. We know each other so well that when one of us is walking in the flesh the other knows. And since we love each other as sisters in Christ, earnestly seeking to know Him further and glorify Him, we lovingly call out the sin in each other and make room for confession.

Great friends help each other seek righteousness

We do this in order to build each other up in Christ and we give each other grace as we repent and go forth (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). We each have mentors who disciple us and speak truth and wisdom over our lives, but we disciple each other as well. In forming friends like these I love to see that Proverbs, a book of wisdom, has insight on who you surround yourself with.

I think this is what is meant in Proverbs 27:17- this mutual love of God and caring more for a friend’s soul than the possibility that they may be a little angry when you call their sin sin.

As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. (NIV) 

Sometimes these words come with a little bit of a sting, but Proverbs 27:5-6 says

Better is an open rebuke than hidden love.
Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. (NIV)

This is a good reason to choose your friends wisely. I have multiple friends, but not every one of them truly helps me to seek righteousness. That means that I walk a little closer with the ones who do so as to follow in the wisdom put forth in Proverbs 13:20.

He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm. (NIV)

Great friends have hard conversations

“You’re not yourself. What’s going on?”

            “What? I’m just really tired and it’s been a busy week.”

“No. What’s going on?”

            “Nothing. I’m just stressed.”

“What is actually going on?”

            “Okay… I haven’t really been spending time in with the Lord this week. I’ve just been so

busy and it’s been sidelined.”

This is a conversation I’ve had with a dear and true friend multiple times. It’s something we do for each other. It’s tough. It’s annoying. I am so deeply thankful for it.

Great friends encourage you to love Christ.

If anyone else were to confront me in this way I am not sure that I would react with such a level head… or with such honesty. It takes courage and vulnerability to honestly share the condition of your heart with someone. Select a few people of good character who seek Christ. Take heart and be open. Not once have I regretted having a friend who loves my soul and encourages me to love Christ.

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Sarah Beth is a former 2013 Transform Intern. She attends Liberty University in Lynchburg, VA where she is studying Biblical Studies.

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