Pursuing Kindness


I work with children, and one thing that I find myself repeating on a daily basis is “be kind.”  As I observe and interact with them, I notice that for the most part they need positive reinforcement in the kindness department when it comes to playing with me or other children. It’s something we’ve heard since grade school.

I think it’s safe to say that kindness just doesn’t come naturally to us. It’s learned. I’ll be quick to confess that it sure doesn’t come naturally to me. It’s something that I needed and still need to learn to do.  When is being kind tough? When someone insults me or hurts me, when I’m in an irritable mood, had poor sleep, and the list could go on.

My Pastor has said many times that “Christians don’t have the luxury of being unkind.” Why is that? Because we have the Master Teacher who not only perfectly exemplifies kindness, but who also enables us to do so. It’s so hard to muster up artificial kindness when I don’t “feel” like being kind. But, there’s no need for me to do this in my own strength because the Holy Spirit, whose 9-fold fruit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control, enables me to live as a servant of Christ in all circumstances (whether favorable or unfavorable).

It’s easy to say that and move on, but track with me for a minute. The fruit of the spirit is 9-fold, the “fruits” are not separate entities; rather they are intertwined and complimentary to one another. When someone is generous, patient, faithful, loving, and or self-controlled it can be perceived as kindness. I think that helps with the application part because there are so many ways that one can show kindness.

Ultimately, like most things in the life of the believer, it comes down to selflessness and Jesus being the primary example for us. In His ministry, Christ was never unkind, right? Well, He is perfect, but we are not so we need His grace (His power at work in us), the Word, and the Holy Spirit, to enable us, as well as other believers to encourage us to live as His servants.

Whoever pursues righteousness and kindness will find life, righteousness, and honor. Proverbs 21:21 (ESV)


  • From this proverb, what should we do with kindness?


  • What is the reward of pursuing kindness and righteousness?


  • How can you begin pursuing kindness today?

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Bre has served on our Boot Camp staff and joined us for the first time in 2014 as one of our summer interns. Bre attends Liberty University Online where she is working on a degree in Psychology. She also loves Starbucks!

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